The Fifth Command: Honor Your Parents

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” (Exodus 20:12 ESV)

“Honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor.” (1 Peter 2:17)

A Word to Parents Who Want to be Honored

Honor means there is order in the home. Honor includes so many of the things we long for: love, respect, healthy relationships. Clearly just yelling the fifth commandment at our kids won’t create the harmony of home we want. While the fifth commandment requires honoring, it is the way we live and honor authority over us that will help create it in our children’s hearts. Yes, they are sinners. Yes, we are too. I grew up in a God-centered home and there were plenty of moments of dishonoring our father and mother.

We parents have a role to play. Are our lives worthy of honor? Dads, do you honor your wife in the eyes of the children or do they see and hear your critical words and attitude? Wives and mothers, what cues are the children taking regarding respect from the way you honor or don’t honor your husband? How do you treat authorities in your life: your boss, your elders, your pastors, or the teacher at school? If your attitude is dishonorable toward authority, don’t be surprised if your kids’ attitude is dishonorable toward you. Parents, we can set the tone by honoring all the authorities in our lives which is pleasing to God. Create a culture of honoring in your home and your children are likely to honor you.

Scripture quotations are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

©2014 Steve DeWitt. You are permitted and encouraged to reproduce and distribute this material in any format provided that: (1) you credit the author, (2) any modifications are clearly marked, (3) you do not charge a fee beyond the cost of reproduction, (4) you include Bethel’s website address ( on the copied resource.

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